The First Date

THE FIRST DATE

You have found the woman/man that you like, you have had long talks and finally you have mustered the courage to ask her for a date. Now is your time to leave an indelible first impression. How you come off in your first date will determine if she will want to hang out with you again. Here are steps to make sure you do not mess things up:

Prepare- Clean up: shave, get your best outfit that makes you look classy and successful. Put on some deodorant and cologne. You don't want to stink, that's a turnoff. Make sure your means of transport is reliable and not shabby. If you have a car, clean it.

Location- Location is important. You don't want to pick a place that's so loud you cannot converse. You also don't want to pick a place that's so cheap and nasty that it's disgusting. If you have money, pick a nice, classy hotel or restaurant that is quiet and romantic-reserve a table, preferably in the farthest corner away from the door. If you are not too rich pick a nice coffee shop-classy but not too expensive. You cant go wrong with a coffee shop.

Relax- Make the date as informal as possible. let conversation flow naturally. Don't rehearse what to say or what topics to delve into as this will make you nervous and stiff. Let everything flow naturally and just go with the flow. Don't panic when there is a moment of silence and try to fill the silence with gibberish or small talk. Get to know her, ask her about herself-her past, her future, her plans, her family, hobbies etc-everyone likes to talk about themselves, and she will definitely feel like you want to know more about her. Avoid focusing the conversation on yourself, you will appear self-centered and egotistical.

Honesty- If she asks you about yourself, be frank and honest. This will help you avoid contradictions in the future. Do not sugar coat anything or over-inflate the truth. Honesty at this point helps you avoid explaining things in the future. Don't say you live in an affluent neighborhood when you are middle class, or that you hold a senior position when you are middle level. Being honest lets her like you for who you are.

Pay for the date- One caveat, do not ask to split the bill! You invited her for the date, so you pay for it. Do not take her to an expensive joint if it strains your pocket because she will think you are well to do and will expect the same for the next date. Take her somewhere you can easily afford and you can maintain that kind of lifestyle throughout your dating. Do not take her to Hilton Hotel for the first date then start taking her her to your local dingy joint afterwards...if you cannot afford to maintain that lifestyle, stay away from it.

Humor- Women love a humorous, confident man. keep it light and both of you ill have fun. Pay her compliments (women love that!) especially on her looks and dress.

End of date- Walk her home or drop her home. Make sure you walk her to the door. Give her a goodnight hug and kiss her on the cheek. Don't go for the kiss on the mouth unless the night has been so good and every indication has been leading to it. The worst thing to do is leave a date with a botched kiss, spoils the whole date. Do not push her to let you come in, let her make the offer if she wants. Call her when you get home and thank her for a good time. Let her know you'd love to go out again.

Happy dating!

The Art Of Love Making

The Art of LoveMaking

So you have dated a while. You have jumped the hoops of the dating scene, gone through the blunders we all make, gone for a bunch of dates-the movies, coffee, dinner dates, walks, museum-and finally you have impressed her enough for her to let you take her to your place. Now comes the hard part, you have to up your game. That first impression in bed will determine if she will be back or she wont pick your phone call again. Here are tips to make that 'first' time memorable

1. Ambience- Don't take your woman to a nasty house, or a dingy hotel (makes her feel cheap). Make sure your house is cozy and inviting, smells good and is clean. Pick a nice CD, something soft that allows both of you to relax. Don't play it too loud though. Turn off the lights and light a few scented candles. It gives the room a sense of mystery and romance.

2. Foreplay- Women hate to be rushed. Be slow, sensual and deliberate. Kiss her softly and caress with soft, tentative touches. Don't go for the home run right away. Kiss the sensitive spots, the neck, her ears, her belly. Let her guide you to the sensitive spots. Avoid being rough unless it's a quickie.

-Massage- Foreplay can also include sensual massage. get a nice water based massage oil (oil based massaged oil will ruin your sheets). Let her lie on her back and slowly massage the tight muscles. She will love you for that.

-Erotic Talk- Lie in bed and tell her what you's like to do to her, what turn u on about her, ask her what turns her own, what positions she likes. It's better when you whisper this to her ear as u play with her earlobes-sensual.

-Stroke her-Hopefully by now you know where the Clitoris is. Stroke her clit gently while sucking on her nipples.Finger her some, this will make her wet and ready for you. Find her erogenous zones and stimulate them. Every woman is different, they have different erogenous zones, you have to learn what your woman's spot is.

-Toys- Toys come in handy during foreplay. If you have some, by all means, use them.

3. Sex:
position- Start with an intimate position like missionary. Don't go for the traditional missionary, try to spice it up..let her wrap her legs around your waist, or lift her legs around your shoulders. Give her something different and memorable.

Ride the wave- bring her to the brink of orgasm then slow down or stop all movement and stimulation (let her relax again, she will most likely be breathing hard and scratching you), then bring her back again to the threshold of orgasm...and again, over and over (but if she is multi-orgasmic, you can cross the threshold over and over). Control yourself, let t last. Women don't want a two-minute man. You have to learn to come to the brink then hang there without finishing. You have to make her beg you to get her 'over the hill'! She will love you for the crazy ride.

After sex- After both of you are done and exhausted don't just get up and go watch television. Lie in bed with her, kiss her, caress her, cuddle, make her feel loved. let her lie against your chest as she de-escalates. Walking away makes her feel used.

Follow-up- Make sure you call her, that night or the next day. Don't go a week without checking on her. Don't rush to invite her back for a 'quickie', let her know how much you enjoyed last night. Send her flowers if you can afford it...or simply write her a nice note. Take her for dinner but don't pressure her to jump back to bed unless she offers.

If you played your cards right, she will never forget you!! Good luck!