The Art Of Love Making

The Art of LoveMaking

So you have dated a while. You have jumped the hoops of the dating scene, gone through the blunders we all make, gone for a bunch of dates-the movies, coffee, dinner dates, walks, museum-and finally you have impressed her enough for her to let you take her to your place. Now comes the hard part, you have to up your game. That first impression in bed will determine if she will be back or she wont pick your phone call again. Here are tips to make that 'first' time memorable

1. Ambience- Don't take your woman to a nasty house, or a dingy hotel (makes her feel cheap). Make sure your house is cozy and inviting, smells good and is clean. Pick a nice CD, something soft that allows both of you to relax. Don't play it too loud though. Turn off the lights and light a few scented candles. It gives the room a sense of mystery and romance.

2. Foreplay- Women hate to be rushed. Be slow, sensual and deliberate. Kiss her softly and caress with soft, tentative touches. Don't go for the home run right away. Kiss the sensitive spots, the neck, her ears, her belly. Let her guide you to the sensitive spots. Avoid being rough unless it's a quickie.

-Massage- Foreplay can also include sensual massage. get a nice water based massage oil (oil based massaged oil will ruin your sheets). Let her lie on her back and slowly massage the tight muscles. She will love you for that.

-Erotic Talk- Lie in bed and tell her what you's like to do to her, what turn u on about her, ask her what turns her own, what positions she likes. It's better when you whisper this to her ear as u play with her earlobes-sensual.

-Stroke her-Hopefully by now you know where the Clitoris is. Stroke her clit gently while sucking on her nipples.Finger her some, this will make her wet and ready for you. Find her erogenous zones and stimulate them. Every woman is different, they have different erogenous zones, you have to learn what your woman's spot is.

-Toys- Toys come in handy during foreplay. If you have some, by all means, use them.

3. Sex:
position- Start with an intimate position like missionary. Don't go for the traditional missionary, try to spice it up..let her wrap her legs around your waist, or lift her legs around your shoulders. Give her something different and memorable.

Ride the wave- bring her to the brink of orgasm then slow down or stop all movement and stimulation (let her relax again, she will most likely be breathing hard and scratching you), then bring her back again to the threshold of orgasm...and again, over and over (but if she is multi-orgasmic, you can cross the threshold over and over). Control yourself, let t last. Women don't want a two-minute man. You have to learn to come to the brink then hang there without finishing. You have to make her beg you to get her 'over the hill'! She will love you for the crazy ride.

After sex- After both of you are done and exhausted don't just get up and go watch television. Lie in bed with her, kiss her, caress her, cuddle, make her feel loved. let her lie against your chest as she de-escalates. Walking away makes her feel used.

Follow-up- Make sure you call her, that night or the next day. Don't go a week without checking on her. Don't rush to invite her back for a 'quickie', let her know how much you enjoyed last night. Send her flowers if you can afford it...or simply write her a nice note. Take her for dinner but don't pressure her to jump back to bed unless she offers.

If you played your cards right, she will never forget you!! Good luck!